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Category: A Woman’s Heart

  • Savannah, Georgia

    On the way home from my husband’s birthday bash with his siblings, we took a side trip to Savannah, Georgia because it was on the way home.

    OH MY GOODNESS! I really never thought about Savannah as a place to visit! My cousin went to art school there, and I knew from his descriptions that it was beautiful but his descriptions did not do it justice!! PUB SQUARE

    While we only had a few hours to tour the city, I fell in love with it. We took a horse carriage tour of historic Savannah. Our guide was entertaining with a fun sense of humor! And it was a gorgeous, pleasant day for such an outing.

    Savannah is known as “The Hostess City of the South” with incredible Antebellum architecture. The city hosts millions of visitors every year! It doesn’t seem big enough to host that many people. America’s first planned city, the city’s forefathers, plotted and set up the city on a grid system with 24 public squares of which there are still 22 of them today. The squares are quaint with beautiful landscaping and gardens.

    After our historical tour, we had lunch at Paula Deen’s restaurant, The Lady & Sons. The fried chicken blew my husband away. He said it was the best he’d ever eaten. I had a chicken salad sandwich which was wonderful. What surprised me was we had the option to do the buffet or order from the menu. I stopped in her little shop and bought several tea towels I just had to have!

    MID EAST There are museums galore from history museums to specialty museums and cultural and themed tours, plus sites and landmarks, no doubt there’s something to suit anyone’s taste.  We enjoy riverboat cruises and they have a combination Land and Sea tour which we will take advantage of the next time we visit. We both love history, so Fort Jackson will have to be on the agenda the next time we visit.

    One of our favorite ways to get around cities and visit various landmarks is the Hop-on, Hop-off buses that allows you to take as much time as you want to visit various places on a specific tour. We did them throughout our trips in Europe and in the U.S. We love being able to park our car and catching the bus to take us to various places. Awesome way to see the city. In Savannah, it’s a trolley which would be fun.

    We would have liked to spend more time but look forward to returning every year to learn more about Savannah, its history and taste the culinary aspects of the Old South.

    We liked it better than Charleston, South Carolina and that says a lot!  If you’ve never been to Savannah, plan to go!

    Have you ever been to Savannah?  What were your impressions of the city?

    #visitSavanahh #lovelysavannah

     

     

     

  • Speech Impediment

    Then Moses said to the Lord, “O my Lord, I am not eloquent, neither before nor since You have spoken to Your servant; but I am slow of speech and slow of tongue.” Exo 4:10 NKJV

    This verse spoke to my heart because I too am not eloquent when speaking from a podium or the like. I need time to ponder my words becoming more and more careful of my speech the older I get. It’s the reason God gave us two ears and only one mouth. To listen better and then speak.

    But in Moses’ case, he had a speech impediment and the task God had given him seemed impossible to do. And yet, God knew Moses would succeed because God orchestrated the situation and Moses’ steps. I find comfort because Moses had failings. He killed an Egyptian which thrust him out of the society that had been his life and yet, God had a plan despite his human condition.

    The movie “The Ten Commandments” with Charlton Heston doesn’t depict Moses as having had the speech impediment but the actor portrayed Moses’ humbleness well. While the movie follows the book of Exodus, there is poetic license and scenes which are not Biblical. It might be fun to watch the movie and follow along in the Bible to see where the movie is in error. If for no other reason than to prove what is the truth and what isn’t.

  • Dealing with Disappointment

    Disappointment. We’ve all experienced it. Sometimes daily!

    Whether it’s that job you wanted and was filled or that friend, spouse or child who let you down, it won’t be the last time you experience that sinking, awful feeling in the pit of your stomach. Disappointment will happen again.

    The question is, how do you handle it? Do you hide in your room buried under the bedcovers curled into a ball until the feeling goes away or do you stand tall, smile and face disappointment head on?

    It’s easy to hide but much more difficult to face disappointment. Why? Because we fear what we cannot control. Many times we can’t control circumstances or how others behave but we can control how we react to situations and people.

    How you react to life’s disappointments shapes your character. Reactions make or break you as a person.
    Recently I had several disappointments, but I realized that my need to overcome them far exceeded my need to retreat. It is in that moment of disappointment that having faith in One who is greater than me makes the road to overcoming it easier. That isn’t always the case.

    What can you do to mitigate disappointment in your life?
    • Allow yourself time to absorb the loss or disappointment
    • Pray. Find Bible verses that speak to your disappointment
    • Search for something good that can either come out of such a disappointment or a result of that disappointment. For example, maybe you lost a job because of a communication issue. Perhaps God was protecting you from a situation that may not have been the right fit for you even though you wanted it. Not everything we want is good for us.
    • Believe God has a plan for your life. He’s in control of everything and knows what’s best for us in our life

    Here are three verses to help you through the disappointment. Read and print them out to keep around your house or on your desk. Better yet, memorize them so you have them in your heart when you need them.

    Jeremiah 29:11 NKJV For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

    Romans 8:28 NKJV And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.

    Philippians 4:6-7 NKJV Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

    What verses have you found to help you with disappointment?

     

     

  • Moving Internationally

    Over the years, my husband and I have traveled all over the world. Moving to Germany proved to be the most arduous moves of all time. We had moved several times in the nine years we lived in California including a cross-country move from Ohio to California.

    I thought I knew all there was to know about moving but this time, there would be an international mover and a language barrier. Speaking fluent Italian would not help in Germany, or so I thought. But I digress.

    When my husband lost his job at the end of 2007 and couldn’t find work, his job became looking for work but there were few positions in his field. We knew we’d have to move at some point but neither of us dreamed we’d be moving out of the country.

    After praying for months for a position, the sale of our home was on the horizon. When the house sold, we placed the bulk of our furniture and household goods in storage and moved to a small apartment near the house we sold. I continued to work my part-time job, and he continued to look for work. One job kept presenting itself and included a move to Germany for what would be five years or longer.   Neither of us wanted to move to Germany. But when every opportunity fluttered away except the German position, we knew the solution was clear.

    We had two things in our favor: we didn’t have a house to sell and our passports were current. But we needed to sell our cars and put more things in storage. In the space of a few weeks, we considered what was important to ship because we could only ship five thousand pounds. Sounds like a lot but it’s really not. Basic household goods and clothing add up real fast.

    The international movers explained our possessions would be in transit for three months. Three months? Now I had another dilemma. We were moving in March which meant we technically were still in winter and would be well into summer before our possessions reached us. Thus, we packed our suitcases with clothing for two seasons.

    Since we had already pared down our possessions to two storage pods, I went through our apartment and determined once again, what I could take with us, what we could sell or pitch and what needed to go into storage. Another daunting task.

    Next, I realized I needed a whole slew of documents to take with me and luckily I had time to track down all the documents. Planning an international or even a national move? This is a must-have list.

    • Passports
    • Travel documents
    • Birth certificate
    • Marriage certificate
    • Divorce papers
    • Child custody papers
    • Adoption papers
    • Driver’s licenses
    • Medical records
    • School/university transcripts
    • Insurance policies and your insurance agent’s contact information
      • Be sure to research international health care coverage at least three months before departure
    • Tax records and your accountant’s contact information
    • Power of attorney, last will and testament and your attorney’s contact information
    • Bank statements and your banker’s telephone number
    • Shipping company documents and contact information
    • Storage facility documents and contact information

    Download copies of moving checklists if you know your move is soon and work through the checklist. Some items on checklists that movers provide will be not applicable to your family but the lists are invaluable.

    If you have planned or have moved across the nation or across continents, what are some things you wish you’d have known to make your move go smoother?

     

     

  • A Grateful Heart

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          Russet, gold, and tangerine leaves blowing off trees in the crisp fall air mark the month of November along with my favorite holiday.  Thanksgiving. 

         Over the years, this holiday, wedged between two other holidays, is skipped in favor of the hustle bustle of the next holiday a month later.   I don’t want to talk about that holiday in this post other than to say it means a great deal to our family as the basis of our faith.

         Thanksgiving, an American holiday, is my favorite because it’s the least commercialized of the three that hit the end of the year.  Well, except for the grocery stores who provide all the wonderful food that grace so many tables.   Turkeys, whether frozen or fresh, appear in shopping carts along with stuffing, various types of potatoes and vegetables, not to mention pumpkin for that wonderful pumpkin pie. Family members transform these ingredients into a delightful meal for families.

         As I reflect on the reason for Thanksgiving, wonderful memories of Thanksgiving, float through my head. Traditions had been forged over the years.  My mom’s elegant table setting where we sat and shared what we were thankful for during the year to playing team board games with laughter and competitiveness after the big dinner. This Thanksgiving lasted for many years while our kids were in High School and College. Then the kids married, had children of their own and moved to other parts of the United States.  And while we don’t gather and spend the actual Thanksgiving Day together, we call one another.   

         After floundering for several years, my husband and I have forged a new tradition of spending our Thanksgiving with our niece’s family because she’s the closest to where we live.  It’s a pleasant holiday spent with forty to fifty people, most of them relatives of my niece’s husband.  It’s a smorgasbord of southern-style foods.  Everyone contributes to the meal, and they set up an impromptu football game.  And while it’s a four-hour drive to get there, we always have a good time. 

         I hope and pray your Thanksgiving is blessed with family and friends like ours. We look forward to this special holiday every year. 

     

    Be Thankful

  • Children & Sports

    I saw this on my Facebook page and thought every parent should read it.  It’s very true.

    My children were involved in gymnastics and dance at very young ages and stuck through the gymnastics until High School and both danced until they graduated High School.

    Today they are successful young women who set goals and achieve them.

    The author is unknown and if you are the author, I salute you and your words of wisdom.
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    One of my friends asked, “Why do you pay so much money for your kids to do all their sports”? Well, I have a confession to make; I don’t pay for my kids to do sports. Personally, I couldn’t care less about what sport they do.

    So, if I am not paying for sports what am I paying for?
    – I pay for those moments when my kids become so tired they want to quit but don’t.
    – I pay for those days when my kids come home from school and are “too tired” to go to their training but they go anyway.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to be disciplined, focused and dedicated.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to take care of their bodies and equipment.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to work with others and to be good team mates, gracious in defeat and humble in success.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to deal with disappointment when they don’t get that placing or title they’d hoped for, but still, they go back week after week giving it their best shot.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to make and accomplish goals.
    – I pay for my kids to respect, not only themselves but other athletes, officials, and coaches.
    – I pay for my kids to learn that it takes hours and hours, years and years of hard work and practice to create a champion and that success does not happen overnight.
    – I pay for my kids to be proud of small achievements, and to work towards long-term goals.
    – I pay for the opportunity my kids have and will have to make life-long friendships, create lifelong memories, to be as proud of their achievements as I am.
    – I pay so that my kids can be out on the field or in the gym instead of in front of a screen…
    …I could go on but, to be short, I don’t pay for sports; I pay for the opportunities that sports provides my kids with to develop attributes that will serve them well throughout their lives and give them the opportunity to bless the lives of others. From what I have seen so far I think it is a great investment!
    ~Unknown

     

  • Nashville, Tennessee

    While I’ve been to Nashville several times, I never stayed at the Gaylord Opryland Resort.   To say that it is spectacular is an understatement!  The lobby alone is worth seeing even if you don’t stay there!

    Never having driven the route, I worried about driving to Nashville from Raleigh due to Hurricane Florence with the devastation reaching the Raleigh Durham area where I live.  No road closures from the Raleigh area all the way to Nashville eased my stress.  However, I drove an hour out of my way because I missed a turnoff.  No matter though.  I still got there. The last time I visited Nashville, the roads were a mess and GPS was useless.  This time, the roads were a dream to navigate!

    I attended a writing conference, so I didn’t have time to tour anything but no big deal because I’d been there before.  And it’s only an eight-hour drive so I can go back to do the “touristy” thing some other time. Simple.

    The inside the Gaylord Opryland resembles a mini-city under a glass dome housing a maze of corridors and pathways. Why there’s even a river running through the complex complete with a boat ride!  I counted at least a dozen or more places to eat not to mention shopping.

    They have an astounding 2,880 rooms.  I can’t even imagine the logistics of cleaning the rooms not to mention checking people in and out.

     What has been your experience if you’ve traveled to Nashville? 

     

     

     

     

  • When God shows up…

    My husband and I are part of a group of couples who pray for the needs of our church.  We get together with the Pastor on Wednesday evenings to pray for one another, the church body, the community, and the world.  We’ve been part of this prayer ministry almost from the first time we attended this church when we moved to North Carolina three years ago.

    One couple out of the four couples on the team pray for people after service on Sundays.  We never know in advance who will pray and it doesn’t matter to any of the couples because they’re usually there every Sunday.  Who prays is at the discretion of the prayer team leader and who is attending church.  We are happy to oblige when the need arises.

    This past Sunday, we knew from the previous Sunday we would be praying.  Sometimes people come to the front and sometimes they don’t.  We’d rather they did but, we know not everyone is comfortable with strangers praying for them. Others have big needs and have the courage to come forward as was the case this past Sunday.

    And God showed up.  It was the right time, the right place for the right prayer partners and the right person.  It all fit together like minute puzzle pieces.

    Scott lost his job and worried about finding another.  Upset by his job loss particularly since it was his dream job and he’d only held the position for several months, he came forward for prayer. My husband and I definitely related to this man’s worry.  Both of us have lost jobs over the years, my husband’s most recent job loss was three years ago and included a move from Virginia to North Carolina.   And my husband had to learn the lesson, the hard way,  of having his identity wrapped up in his work.

    He learned his identity is in Christ and not the position God gave him.  It was a long, tough lesson to learn.  But through it all, we trusted God.  His way is better than ours and there was a purpose to what we endured.  We couldn’t see it then.  Rarely can you see the benefit of the struggles as you’re going through them.  You only see them after you’ve come through the fire.

    Being familiar with this setback, we told several job loss related stories which included an international move.  We shared words of encouragement before we prayed for him.  Our stories and prayers encouraged him.

    We now know God had a plan for us to share our job loss moments with those who are suffering the same fate.  But more than that, we realized God showed up at that moment and put the right people in Scott’s path.

    But those who wait on the LORD
    Shall renew their strength;
    They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
    They shall run and not be weary,
    They shall walk and not faint.
    Isaiah 40: 31

  • Memorial Day

    My father served (pictured on the left) in the Navy in World War II and my husband served in the Air Force at the tail end of the Vietnam War. Friends and classmates have served.  I have always been in awe of their service and for those who served in the United States Armed Forces throughout these past 200+ years. 

    They have served and continue to serve the United States with dignity and pride.  American soldiers have served to keep our country safe but most importantly to keep Americans, you and me, safe. 

    For a time, some years ago, my husband worked for a company that had contracts with the military and we lived in Germany.  We had the distinct privilege to see first hand the military bases used by the Germans during the second world war.  Military bases that are now American military bases.

    American families resided on those bases in Germany while their spouses were deployed somewhere in the middle east. These wives and husbands raised their children until their spouses could return to them if they returned. 

    The soldiers aren’t the only ones sacrificing for our freedoms, their families do too.  Birthdays, holidays, special occasions all missed by the parent who is deployed. The children miss out.  The spouse misses out. And the soldier misses out.  All to keep our freedoms.

    While living in Germany,  we toured the German concentration camp, Dachau.  It was much smaller than the original camp.  A sculpture erected on a platform in front of the administration building in the main camp area was cast in bronze.   I couldn’t tell what it was until I reached the middle of the camp area.  I was directly in front of it and had to look at it for a minute or two to figure out what it was:  Barbed wire with skeletons at odd angles.  It depicted what had occurred there all those years ago. I stood there and cried.   

    On the opposite wall, a bronze plaque in five languages reads, Never Again.

    Dachau camp was the model for the more than 15,000 camps the Germans built in occupied countries.  To think that a camp that was originally built for 6,000 political prisoners had over 10 times that many people, including Jews, when it was liberated on April 29, 1945.   Never again.  

    It was heart-rending to see the artifacts.  While my heart ached at the loss of life in those crematoriums, I couldn’t wrap my mind around the fact that United States soldiers freed prisoners in countless camps.  I am forever grateful TO them and FOR them for their sacrifice and for the sacrifice their families give on a daily basis. 

    Today, we remember ALL of them. Our prayers are with those who currently serve and those who have served. Always. 

     “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”    Joshua 1:9
    Who in your family has served and in what branch? 
     

  • Royal Wedding

    A prince and his princess.  What could be more romantic than that?

    Courtesy of The New York Times

    The thousands of people who lined the streets, trying to catch a glimpse of the prince and princess, and the millions who watched on television joined in celebrating their wedding.  Mesmerized,  I was glued to the television. And it didn’t matter that I witnessed Prince William’s wedding or Princess Diana’s wedding.  This wedding was special.
    Most likely I will not witness another royal wedding in my lifetime.  Regardless, it was especially dear to me because my husband and I also married on this day seventeen years ago.
    The bride’s simple and elegant dress, her gorgeous lacy veil and the astounding royal tiara adorned her beautifully.  The groom, decked out in his royal military uniform, was more than enough to make any woman swoon.  Both were simply breathtaking.  The pomp and circumstance added to the enchantment and fairytale mystique.
    The American preacher spoke a fiery message during the ceremony.  He intoned “God is love”.  I couldn’t help but think, God is also about romance!  I remembered Song of Solomon and how beautiful the words were where she confesses her love:

    Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
    For your love is better than wine; your anointing oils are fragrant;
    your name is oil poured out; therefore virgins love you.
    Draw me after you; let us run.
    The king has brought me into his chambers 

    Song of Solomon 1:1-4 (ESV)

    And he confesses his:

    I compare you, my love, to a mare among Pharaoh’s chariots.
    Your cheeks are lovely with ornaments, your neck with strings of jewels.  

    Behold, you are beautiful, my love; behold, you are beautiful; your eyes are doves.

    Song of Solomon 1:9-10,15 (ESV)

    I pray Prince Harry and Princess Meghan have a lifetime of love and romance, happiness and joy.
    God bless you both.