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Tag: disappointment

  • Dealing with Disappointment

    Disappointment. We’ve all experienced it. Sometimes daily!

    Whether it’s that job you wanted and was filled or that friend, spouse or child who let you down, it won’t be the last time you experience that sinking, awful feeling in the pit of your stomach. Disappointment will happen again.

    The question is, how do you handle it? Do you hide in your room buried under the bedcovers curled into a ball until the feeling goes away or do you stand tall, smile and face disappointment head on?

    It’s easy to hide but much more difficult to face disappointment. Why? Because we fear what we cannot control. Many times we can’t control circumstances or how others behave but we can control how we react to situations and people.

    How you react to life’s disappointments shapes your character. Reactions make or break you as a person.
    Recently I had several disappointments, but I realized that my need to overcome them far exceeded my need to retreat. It is in that moment of disappointment that having faith in One who is greater than me makes the road to overcoming it easier. That isn’t always the case.

    What can you do to mitigate disappointment in your life?
    • Allow yourself time to absorb the loss or disappointment
    • Pray. Find Bible verses that speak to your disappointment
    • Search for something good that can either come out of such a disappointment or a result of that disappointment. For example, maybe you lost a job because of a communication issue. Perhaps God was protecting you from a situation that may not have been the right fit for you even though you wanted it. Not everything we want is good for us.
    • Believe God has a plan for your life. He’s in control of everything and knows what’s best for us in our life

    Here are three verses to help you through the disappointment. Read and print them out to keep around your house or on your desk. Better yet, memorize them so you have them in your heart when you need them.

    Jeremiah 29:11 NKJV For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

    Romans 8:28 NKJV And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.

    Philippians 4:6-7 NKJV Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

    What verses have you found to help you with disappointment?

     

     

  • Children & Sports

    I saw this on my Facebook page and thought every parent should read it.  It’s very true.

    My children were involved in gymnastics and dance at very young ages and stuck through the gymnastics until High School and both danced until they graduated High School.

    Today they are successful young women who set goals and achieve them.

    The author is unknown and if you are the author, I salute you and your words of wisdom.
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    One of my friends asked, “Why do you pay so much money for your kids to do all their sports”? Well, I have a confession to make; I don’t pay for my kids to do sports. Personally, I couldn’t care less about what sport they do.

    So, if I am not paying for sports what am I paying for?
    – I pay for those moments when my kids become so tired they want to quit but don’t.
    – I pay for those days when my kids come home from school and are “too tired” to go to their training but they go anyway.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to be disciplined, focused and dedicated.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to take care of their bodies and equipment.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to work with others and to be good team mates, gracious in defeat and humble in success.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to deal with disappointment when they don’t get that placing or title they’d hoped for, but still, they go back week after week giving it their best shot.
    – I pay for my kids to learn to make and accomplish goals.
    – I pay for my kids to respect, not only themselves but other athletes, officials, and coaches.
    – I pay for my kids to learn that it takes hours and hours, years and years of hard work and practice to create a champion and that success does not happen overnight.
    – I pay for my kids to be proud of small achievements, and to work towards long-term goals.
    – I pay for the opportunity my kids have and will have to make life-long friendships, create lifelong memories, to be as proud of their achievements as I am.
    – I pay so that my kids can be out on the field or in the gym instead of in front of a screen…
    …I could go on but, to be short, I don’t pay for sports; I pay for the opportunities that sports provides my kids with to develop attributes that will serve them well throughout their lives and give them the opportunity to bless the lives of others. From what I have seen so far I think it is a great investment!
    ~Unknown