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  • Honoring the Fallen

    On a quiet drive on our way back to Germany, we passed through the French countryside and found ourselves at the Meuse-Argonne American Cemetery. It is the resting place of more than 14,000 U.S. soldiers who gave their lives during World War I. Nestled far from major cities, the cemetery was both isolated and serene, its location a reminder of the forgotten corners of history where bravery was spent.

    Though remote, we weren’t alone. French families and fellow Americans were also paying their respects, a poignant sign that the sacrifice of these men still resonates across generations and borders.

    Inside the chapel, I signed the register and read heartfelt entries, especially those written by French visitors—many of them deeply moving, filled with gratitude and reverence.

    The cemetery itself is peaceful. Four symmetrical rectangles of headstones stretch across manicured lawns, each marker bearing the name, rank, and origin of the fallen. Some bear only the inscription “Known but to God.” The presence of both crosses and Stars of David speaks to the diversity of the young lives lost.

    There is a tranquility to this place. A solemn hush. A deep respect. It is a sacred space not just of remembrance, but of gratitude—for lives laid down so others might live free.

  • Honoring the Fallen

    On a quiet drive on our way back to Germany, we passed through the French countryside and found ourselves at the Meuse-Argonne American Cemetery. It is the resting place of more than 14,000 U.S. soldiers who gave their lives during World War I. Nestled far from major cities, the cemetery was both isolated and serene, its location a reminder of the forgotten corners of history where bravery was spent.

    Though remote, we weren’t alone. French families and fellow Americans were also paying their respects, a poignant sign that the sacrifice of these men still resonates across generations and borders.

    Inside the chapel, I signed the register and read heartfelt entries, especially those written by French visitors—many of them deeply moving, filled with gratitude and reverence.

    The cemetery itself is peaceful. Four symmetrical rectangles of headstones stretch across manicured lawns, each marker bearing the name, rank, and origin of the fallen. Some bear only the inscription “Known but to God.” The presence of both crosses and Stars of David speaks to the diversity of the young lives lost.

    There is a tranquility to this place. A solemn hush. A deep respect. It is a sacred space not just of remembrance, but of gratitude—for lives laid down so others might live free.

  • Marriage God’s Way

    How Can You Tell If He’s Mister Right or Mister Wrong?

    After my divorce, I struggled to trust my judgment. I thought I knew what a good man looked like. My ex-husband provided for us, but I missed key warning signs that led to a painful divorce.

    We were young—too young. He was 21, and I was just 18. I believed our marriage would last a lifetime, but back then, there wasn’t easy access to relationship wisdom like there is today. Ironically, now there might be too much advice, and not all of it is right! At that time, I wasn’t walking with the Lord, so I never thought to seek His guidance on choosing a spouse. But now, I know better.

    After eight years of praying, I met my husband. I only asked God for two things: that he be a man of God and that he would sing with me in church. God provided both—and so much more. My husband is kind, giving, and has a beautiful heart. We’ve been together for 24 years, and we still laugh at the little things and love each other deeply.

    So, how can young men and women discern if someone is the right partner?

    LADIES: What the Bible Says About a Godly Man

    A godly man should:

    • Love sacrificially, just as Christ loves His people. (Ephesians 5:25)
    • Be self-controlled, gentle, responsible, and a strong leader in his home. (1 Timothy 3:2-4)
    • Love without harshness or resentment toward his wife. (Colossians 3:19)
    • Be known for integrity and leave a legacy of righteousness. (Proverbs 20:7)
    • Display the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23)
    • Most importantly, share your faith and values in Christ.

    These traits don’t guarantee a perfect marriage, but they create a solid foundation—especially when both partners are fully committed to the Lord.

    GUYS: What the Bible Says About a Godly Woman

    A godly woman should:

    • Be trustworthy, supportive, and bring good into her husband’s life. (Proverbs 31:10-12)
    • Speak with wisdom and kindness, not harshness or recklessness. (Proverbs 31:26)
    • Value inner beauty and character over outward appearance. (1 Peter 3:3-4)
    • Be loving, self-controlled, and have a heart for her home. (Titus 2:3-5)
    • Strengthen her home rather than causing strife or division. (Proverbs 14:1)

    Traits That Apply to Both

    A godly spouse will:
    ✅ Love you as you are.
    ✅ Be sensitive to your needs.
    ✅ Spend quality time with you.
    ✅ Be financially responsible.
    ✅ Pray with you and for you.
    ✅ Make your home a safe place.
    ✅ Celebrate your accomplishments.
    ✅ Encourage and uplift you.
    ✅ Respect you always.
    ✅ Remain faithful to you alone.

    Looking back, I wish I had known these things before saying “I do” the first time.

    What do you think? Do you agree with this list, or would you add something? Drop your thoughts in the comments below!

     

  • When Pride Blinds Us:

    Have you ever read a passage of Scripture and realized that, although it was written to a specific people in a specific time, its message is just as relevant today?

    Obadiah 1:3 is one of those verses. Though steeped in history, its truth is timeless:

    “The pride of your heart has deceived you, you who dwell in the clefts of the rock, whose habitation is high; you who say in your heart, ‘Who will bring me down to the ground?’” — Obadiah 1:3

    Obadiah is the shortest book in the Old Testament, written by a prophet whose name means “servant of Yahweh.” Though little is known about him, biblical scholars believe the book was written after the destruction of Jerusalem in 585 B.C. His message was directed toward the nation of Edom, descendants of Esau, who had grown prideful and arrogant.

    Understanding the Context

    Edom took pleasure in the downfall of Judah, their long-standing rival, when Jerusalem was seized. Because of their arrogance and lack of compassion, God brought judgment against them. Their pride deceived them into believing they were untouchable— secure in their own strength and safe in their mountain fortresses. The Edomites lived in modern day in Petra in modern day Jordan. You probably remember it from Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade.

    But no human power can stand against God.

    How This Applies Today

    The pride of Edom is a warning for us today. Pride is deceptive—it makes us believe we are self-sufficient, that we don’t need God, that we are somehow above correction. Nations, groups, and individuals alike can fall into this trap, thinking they are beyond accountability. But Scripture reminds us, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18).

    Our human nature leans toward pride, but God calls us to humility. The path of pride leads to downfall, while humility draws us closer to Him. Jesus Himself modeled this, humbling Himself even to the point of death on a cross (Philippians 2:8). True strength is found in surrendering to God, not in exalting ourselves.

    A Call to Self-Reflection

    Pride isn’t always obvious. It can creep in through self-reliance, defensiveness, or an unwillingness to admit when we’re wrong. The key is recognizing it before it takes root. So let’s ask ourselves: Am I trusting in my own strength, or am I relying on God? Am I walking in humility, or am I clinging to pride?

    Let’s learn from Edom’s mistake and choose humility. Because in the end, no fortress, no position, no power can stand against the authority of God. But those who humble themselves before Him will find grace, strength, and true security.

    How do you guard yourself against pride? Share your thoughts in the comments!

  • Marriage Conflict 101:

    Have you ever found yourself wondering how men and women—so fundamentally different in the way they think, feel, and communicate—manage to build lasting relationships? It’s no secret that these differences can sometimes lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and conflict in marriage. But what if, instead of seeing these differences as obstacles, we viewed them as opportunities to grow closer and strengthen our bond? Understanding how our spouse processes emotions, handles stress, and resolves conflict can be the key to transforming tension into teamwork. Let’s take a closer look at what makes us unique and, more importantly, how we can use that knowledge to create a healthier, more harmonious marriage.

    Men and women are different and yet sometimes there is overlap depending on the individual. I’m not psychologist, but the differences are stunning which causes me to wonder how they ever got together in the first place.

    These are general tendencies influenced by biology, culture, and individual personality. Obviously, there could be overlap from one gender to the other, but highlighting their differences will give us a basis to tackle the question of how to deal with marriage conflict.

    Men:

    • Brain function: Men are focused problem-solving and spatial reasoning
    • Hormonal Influence: Men are competitive, tend to take risks and are assertive.
    • Emotional processing: Men compartmentalize emotions more, focusing on solutions rather than discussing feelings in depth.
    • Communication styles: Men often use more direct, action-oriented communication and may prioritize efficiency over emotional expression
    • Social and behavioral tendencies: Men are more likely to focus on independence, hierarchy, and status in group dynamics.
    • Stress response: Men often default to “fight-or-flight,” handling stress with action or withdrawal

    Women:

    • Brain function: Their communication between brain hemispheres is better, potentially leading to stronger multitasking and emotional intelligence.
    • Hormonal Influence: They tend to bond emotionally, have empathy, and a nurturing spirit.
    • Emotional processing: They are more attuned to facial expressions and emotional cues, making them more empathetic in social interactions.
    • Communication styles: Women tend to use more words, show more expressive body language, and seek connection through conversation
    • Social and behavioral tendencies: Women tend to value relationships and community, often emphasizing cooperation.
    • Stress response: Women typically engage in a “tend-and-befriend” response, seeking social support

    Both men and women can grow by knowing with the generalization are for their gender and that of their partners. So what can each gender do to minimize marital conflict in the first place?

    Ask yourself these helpful questions when you are looking for ways to have less conflict in your marriage and become a better spouse:

    1. When you are angry with your spouse or he is angry with you, how do you typically respond?
    2. How do you or your spouse typically resolve conflict? Is it working?
    3. What is one thing about you that needs to change to make conflict resolution better in your marriage?
    4. What is one thing from a scripture that you need to respond to, need to apply in your life/marriage?

    Here are a dozen ways to minimize and/or resolve ongoing conflict (some have scripture verses that back up the suggestions):

    • Agree as a couple that you will work together to resolve conflicts Ephesians 5:21
    • Go to your spouse only  Matthew 18
    • Deal with the real issue – be specific. When you are angry, do not attack Ephesians 4:26
    • Look behind the anger to other feelings. Acknowledge your anger to yourself and your spouseDefuse the anger before trying to reach a solution. Be quick to hear and slow to anger James 1:19-20
    • Be gentle in your answers for it turns away wrath Proverbs 15:1
    • Do nothing from selfishness Philippians 2:3-4
    • Clear up issues promptly – don’t let them fester and grow!  Ephesians 4:26

    Short-term pain is worth long-term gain. Be willing to apologize, ask for forgiveness, and forgive.

    Will it be easy? No! But, if you tackle one or two at a time of the above suggestions and master them, you will be further ahead than many couples and will probably be more content as a result.

    Do you agree with this list, or do you have other suggestions that worked for you? Comment below.

    Navigating the differences between men and women in marriage isn’t about changing who we are—it’s about learning to understand, appreciate, and communicate better with our spouse. Conflict is inevitable, but how we approach it determines whether it drives us apart or brings us closer together. By applying biblical wisdom, practicing patience, and making small but meaningful changes, we can foster a marriage built on respect, love, and unity. The journey isn’t always easy, but the reward—a stronger, more fulfilling relationship—is more than worth the effort. What steps will you take today to create a marriage that not only survives but thrives?

    Comment below if you use any of these methods or have something else you’ve done.

  • Marriage Conflict 101:

    Have you ever found yourself wondering how men and women—so fundamentally different in the way they think, feel, and communicate—manage to build lasting relationships? It’s no secret that these differences can sometimes lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and conflict in marriage. But what if, instead of seeing these differences as obstacles, we viewed them as opportunities to grow closer and strengthen our bond? Understanding how our spouse processes emotions, handles stress, and resolves conflict can be the key to transforming tension into teamwork. Let’s take a closer look at what makes us unique and, more importantly, how we can use that knowledge to create a healthier, more harmonious marriage.

    Men and women are different and yet sometimes there is overlap depending on the individual. I’m not psychologist, but the differences are stunning which causes me to wonder how they ever got together in the first place.

    These are general tendencies influenced by biology, culture, and individual personality. Obviously, there could be overlap from one gender to the other, but highlighting their differences will give us a basis to tackle the question of how to deal with marriage conflict.

    Men:

    • Brain function: Men are focused problem-solving and spatial reasoning
    • Hormonal Influence: Men are competitive, tend to take risks and are assertive.
    • Emotional processing: Men compartmentalize emotions more, focusing on solutions rather than discussing feelings in depth.
    • Communication styles: Men often use more direct, action-oriented communication and may prioritize efficiency over emotional expression
    • Social and behavioral tendencies: Men are more likely to focus on independence, hierarchy, and status in group dynamics.
    • Stress response: Men often default to “fight-or-flight,” handling stress with action or withdrawal

    Women:

    • Brain function: Their communication between brain hemispheres is better, potentially leading to stronger multitasking and emotional intelligence.
    • Hormonal Influence: They tend to bond emotionally, have empathy, and a nurturing spirit.
    • Emotional processing: They are more attuned to facial expressions and emotional cues, making them more empathetic in social interactions.
    • Communication styles: Women tend to use more words, show more expressive body language, and seek connection through conversation
    • Social and behavioral tendencies: Women tend to value relationships and community, often emphasizing cooperation.
    • Stress response: Women typically engage in a “tend-and-befriend” response, seeking social support

    Both men and women can grow by knowing with the generalization are for their gender and that of their partners. So what can each gender do to minimize marital conflict in the first place?

    Ask yourself these helpful questions when you are looking for ways to have less conflict in your marriage and become a better spouse:

    1. When you are angry with your spouse or he is angry with you, how do you typically respond?
    2. How do you or your spouse typically resolve conflict? Is it working?
    3. What is one thing about you that needs to change to make conflict resolution better in your marriage?
    4. What is one thing from a scripture that you need to respond to, need to apply in your life/marriage?

    Here are a dozen ways to minimize and/or resolve ongoing conflict (some have scripture verses that back up the suggestions):

    • Agree as a couple that you will work together to resolve conflicts Ephesians 5:21
    • Go to your spouse only  Matthew 18
    • Deal with the real issue – be specific. When you are angry, do not attack Ephesians 4:26
    • Look behind the anger to other feelings. Acknowledge your anger to yourself and your spouseDefuse the anger before trying to reach a solution. Be quick to hear and slow to anger James 1:19-20
    • Be gentle in your answers for it turns away wrath Proverbs 15:1
    • Do nothing from selfishness Philippians 2:3-4
    • Clear up issues promptly – don’t let them fester and grow!  Ephesians 4:26

    Short-term pain is worth long-term gain. Be willing to apologize, ask for forgiveness, and forgive.

    Will it be easy? No! But, if you tackle one or two at a time of the above suggestions and master them, you will be further ahead than many couples and will probably be more content as a result.

    Do you agree with this list, or do you have other suggestions that worked for you? Comment below.

    Navigating the differences between men and women in marriage isn’t about changing who we are—it’s about learning to understand, appreciate, and communicate better with our spouse. Conflict is inevitable, but how we approach it determines whether it drives us apart or brings us closer together. By applying biblical wisdom, practicing patience, and making small but meaningful changes, we can foster a marriage built on respect, love, and unity. The journey isn’t always easy, but the reward—a stronger, more fulfilling relationship—is more than worth the effort. What steps will you take today to create a marriage that not only survives but thrives?

    Comment below if you use any of these methods or have something else you’ve done.

  • Lamentations 1:2…

    She weeps bitterly in the night, Her tears are on her cheeks; Among all her lovers, She has none to comfort her. All her friends have dealt treacherously They have become her enemies. Lamentations 1:2

    After reading the above passage, at first glance one would think the author is speaking of a woman he knows and has compassion for. But that would be taking the verse out of context.

    If you are a woman, you may relate to the suffering this woman has had (or someone who has).  But this passage is not talking about an unnamed woman, it has an entirely different meaning.

    I’ll make a feeble attempt at comparing the reality of a woman’s pain with what the author intended.

    Women who have suffered in love can certainly relate to this passage.

    Many women have wept over a shattered marriage, a broken relationship, or a loss of a husband. They have experience deep hurt, betrayal, and abandonment. Perhaps they have placed their trust in romantic partners for security, love, and fulfillment. But human love often falls short.

    Many seek their worth and identity in relationships rather than in Jesus. And then there are the well-meaning friends. They can lead women astray with their opinions on relationships and situations, sometimes resorting to falsehoods to undermine a relationship.

    Human love can be fickle, and man will fail you… but God’s love is infinite and always available. He will never forsake you.  It’s best to rely on His unfailing promises.

    However, the passage is not about a romantic involvement at all.

    Jeremiah, the author of this book and an ancient prophet, repeatedly warned Israel. He finds no pleasure in saying, “I told them, but they wouldn’t listen.”

    He poetically describes his immense angst and sorrow by personifying Jerusalem as a woman. Likewise, he describes the “lovers” as being Jerusalem’s allies who vowed to protect “her” but eventually turned on “her” and became “her” enemy.

    Israel has always faced an inescapable choice… either “she” relies totally on God for her protection or turn to “her” allies for protection.

    A woman faces a similar choice: to place her trust in God or to seek fulfillment in a relationship.

    Here are some scripture passages that will encourage anyone going through a difficult relationship issue:

    • Psalm 34:18
    • Proverbs 3:5-6
    • Isaiah 41:10
    • Jeremiah 17:7-8

    Who do you put your trust in? God or man?  Leave a comment below.

  • Lamentations 1:2…

    She weeps bitterly in the night, Her tears are on her cheeks; Among all her lovers, She has none to comfort her. All her friends have dealt treacherously They have become her enemies. Lamentations 1:2

    After reading the above passage, at first glance one would think the author is speaking of a woman he knows and has compassion for. But that would be taking the verse out of context.

    If you are a woman, you may relate to the suffering this woman has had (or someone who has).  But this passage is not talking about an unnamed woman, it has an entirely different meaning.

    I’ll make a feeble attempt at comparing the reality of a woman’s pain with what the author intended.

    Women who have suffered in love can certainly relate to this passage.

    Many women have wept over a shattered marriage, a broken relationship, or a loss of a husband. They have experience deep hurt, betrayal, and abandonment. Perhaps they have placed their trust in romantic partners for security, love, and fulfillment. But human love often falls short.

    Many seek their worth and identity in relationships rather than in Jesus. And then there are the well-meaning friends. They can lead women astray with their opinions on relationships and situations, sometimes resorting to falsehoods to undermine a relationship.

    Human love can be fickle, and man will fail you… but God’s love is infinite and always available. He will never forsake you.  It’s best to rely on His unfailing promises.

    However, the passage is not about a romantic involvement at all.

    Jeremiah, the author of this book and an ancient prophet, repeatedly warned Israel. He finds no pleasure in saying, “I told them, but they wouldn’t listen.”

    He poetically describes his immense angst and sorrow by personifying Jerusalem as a woman. Likewise, he describes the “lovers” as being Jerusalem’s allies who vowed to protect “her” but eventually turned on “her” and became “her” enemy.

    Israel has always faced an inescapable choice… either “she” relies totally on God for her protection or turn to “her” allies for protection.

    A woman faces a similar choice: to place her trust in God or to seek fulfillment in a relationship.

    Here are some scripture passages that will encourage anyone going through a difficult relationship issue:

    • Psalm 34:18
    • Proverbs 3:5-6
    • Isaiah 41:10
    • Jeremiah 17:7-8

    Who do you put your trust in? God or man?  Leave a comment below.

  • Life Lessons Inspired by Biblical Truths

    Do you struggle with a plan for your life? Do you have any guidelines?

    Recently, I came across a meme. The title was Six Important Guidelines for Life. It had an image of old man with a white beard pointing his finger to heaven. (He could have easily looked like Moses.) Under the photo the creator of the meme listed the six guidelines.

    It might have been a Christian thing since the list mentions God, but it was just something I probably snipped from one of my social media accounts because I thought the list was particularly insightful.

    As I began to read the list and think about it, it occurred to me that each of those six guidelines could have come straight from the Bible! The list can serve as a practical guide to emotional, spiritual and relational health, aligning closely with biblical principles and the pursuit of Christlike character.

    Let’s take a deeper look at the list, align it with biblical principles and examine the practical applications.

    When you are alone, mind your thoughts.

    Cultivating mental discipline and guarding against destructive thought patterns can be challenging but are totally doable. Practicing mindfulness and eliminating negative self-talk (don’t even think words that are negative, much less give voice to them).

    When a person focuses more on that which is true, noble and praiseworthy, it can help transform the mind, but it won’t be easy.  Nothing worth doing or being comes easy.

    Scripture verses that speak to this guideline: Philippians 4:8; Romans 12:2; Psalm 1:2.

    When you are with friends, mind your thoughts

    This guideline emphasizes personal relationships, specifically friendships. It’s important communicate to your friends in a way that honors God. Sarcasm, gossip or criticism of any kind could damage a good friendship. Practice active listening and speak with intention to foster deeper… and healthier connections. Be mindful of how thoughts shape character and actions.   Speak with kindness, truth, and wisdom, making certain they are edifying rather than harmful. Gossip, harsh words, or careless remarks can cause division or pain, even unintentionally.

    Scripture verses that speak to this guideline: James 1:19, Ephesians 4:29, Proverbs 18:21

    When you are angry, mind your temper

    Anger is a natural emotion, but can lead to sin. Breathing deep and taking the time to respond with self-control is crucial.

    Managing those moments anger is like exercising a muscle that has never been exercised. It might hurt or may cause relational conflict until the process is ingrained.  Anger, through rash words or actions flowing out without thought can be sinful.

    Identify anger triggers and address the underlying issues. It could be unmet needs or unresolved hurt or something else.  Whatever the case, techniques like deep breathing or journaling may help, but it’s pausing to pray and seek God’s perspective that will prevent destructive and perhaps catastrophic outcomes.

    Scripture verses that speak to this guideline: Ephesians 4:26-27, Galatians 5:22-23, Proverbs 14:29

    When you are with a group, mind your behavior

    Actions in a group setting are a testimony of faith.

    Walk in humility, respect, and love, and put the needs of others first. It speaks to accountability and the impact of social influence of those around us.

    Examine how group dynamics affect your actions so that you can maintain integrity and authenticity. Set boundaries for yourself while during a group event and practice humility which will enhance a positive group environment.

    Scripture verses that speak to this guideline: Philippians 2:3-4, Galatians 5:13, Matthew 5:16

    When you are in trouble, mind your emotions

    Oftentimes, trouble often brings emotional upheaval which then leads to fear, worry, or despair. It can immobilize us. Acknowledge the emotion, but don’t let the emotion control you.

    It is necessary develop emotional resilience by trusting in God. Bring your burdens to Him in prayer and you can rest in His promises.

    It seems so simple, because it is simple. A peace comes from leaving your worries and burdens with Him.

    Scripture verses that speak to this guideline: Philippians 4:6, Isaiah 26:3, Matthew 11:28-30

    When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.

    Pride and self-sufficiency can pop up when blessings increase. It can sometimes lead to pride if we lose sight of who we are in the grander scheme of things.

    Acknowledging God as the source of all blessings is something that must be done to keep a person humble. Focusing the stewardship of the blessings one has and how to use God-given gifts to serve others will reinforce humility and ultimately more dependence on Him. Staying humble ensures that we glorify Him.

    Giving thanks for the blessings is crucial to continue to foster a state of humility.

    There are apps for your phone or your computer that are helpful in ensuring you foster gratitude.  Here they are:

    Glorify  (It offers daily devotionals, guided prayers, and a gratitude journal to help strengthen your relationship with God.)

    Abide (A Christian meditation app that includes guided gratitude meditations, prayers, and scripture-based content.)

    Pray.com  (Offers prayer plans, Bible stories, and gratitude journaling features to help you focus on the blessings God provides).

    Scripture verses that speak to this guideline: Peter 5:6, James 1:17, Proverbs 3:34, Luke 12:48

    I’d say the list totally aligns with Biblical principles as it encourages balance across thoughts emotions, behaviors and relationships. The practical applications encourages us to foster spiritual maturity by applying biblical wisdom in our daily life. If there are struggles, we can develop actionable steps to improve ourselves.  based on the list that will get us closer to the goal of realizing the guidelines in our lives. Ultimately, having a framework such as these guidelines will help us live out our faith with boldness.

    Do you struggle with any of the guidelines listed?  Comment below.

     

  • Blueprint for a Blessed Life:

    The psalms are beautiful and were the original worship songs for the Israelites. Many of them were written by David throughout his life. Today, we’ll will focus on the first verse of the first psalm.

    Blessed is the man
    Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,
    Nor stands in the path of sinners,
    Nor sits in the seat of the scornful;     Psalm 1:1 NKJV

    We’ll take a look at the above scripture verse and break it down. But to sum it up, it’s what a righteous man does not do. I find this scripture verse to be comforting. My prayer is that as we break it down, it will be a blessing and comfort to you as well.

    Blessed is the man

    The word blessed is from the Hebrew word esher and conveys the idea of happiness or contentment. Esher comes from the root word is ashar which means “to be straight” or “to be right”. It refers to a man or woman who is “right” or “straight” with God. Basically, a happy man or woman.

    In Hebrew, the word is plural, meaning the person has multiple blessings or intensified blessings.

    It is not just for those who have incredible accolades (like kings, or scholars or the wealthy).  But also for the common man. Charles Spurgeon commented: “This blessedness is as attainable by the poor, the forgotten, and the obscure, as by those whose names figure in history, and have immense fame.”

    Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,

    The blessed man does not do certain things. He won’t walk or stand on a certain path, nor will he sit in a place where he shouldn’t be. The blessed man thinks and behaves differently than an ungodly man. They fall into different groups of people.

    It also gives a clear insight to the progression of sin. It is insidious. One act leads to another. So, the man who acts on bad counsel, may begin to do evil deeds and it progresses until his life is in a total shambles.

    When the ungodly have counsel, the righteous man will not take it. Today, we are bombarded with advice from every place you can think of from YouTube, Twitter (now X), Instagram… you name it. The righteous man knows how to discern the counsel of the ungodly.

    It’s sad to know how many fail here. Many don’t even consider if the counsel is godly or ungodly.  They hear the advice and don’t consider if it’s godly or not. They simply jump on the bandwagon.

    Sadly, man’s own conscience, his own mind, his own heart, can give him ungodly counsel. The key here is to be and stay in the Word of God. God’s word is always the best counselor, with the Holy Spirit as your teacher.  Godly counselors will always bring the truth of God’s word to help someone who wants counseling. Check out Psalm 119:24.

     Nor stands in the path of sinners,

    A righteous man knows that the sinner’s path is wrong for him. Path speaks of a way, a road, or a direction. The righteous man will not travel in the same direction as a sinner.

    Nor is a righteous man afraid to take a less-traveled road because he knows it will lead to happiness, blessings, and eternal life.

    Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it.  Mattew 7:13

    And a righteous man is confident in his path. And God has a path for each man that will lead to enormous blessings. (And it’s not always monetary.)

    You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11

     Nor sits in the seat of the scornful

    What is a scornful person? They love to sit and criticize the people and things of God. You see it all over the internet but the righteous man won’t stand for it.

    When others put down Christians, it’s easy to sit among them and join the fray of criticism. Christians have a lot of things that people can take stabs at. But it is wrong for Christians to do that because then they become the scornful.

    Instead, Christians should always stand up and show others he or she is a follower of Christ.

    In conclusion, a blessed person listens to advice from godly counselors but should always line up that advice with what the Bible says. (In most cases, they will refer the righteous person to scripture passages that back up the advice. And not just one, but many.) The righteous person will stand tall and make a claim of being a child of God and a Christian.

    What are you thoughts of about this passage?  Give comments below.